Thoughts of Lawyering and Mommying
Work life balance is something we all struggle with – and I think I have just discovered a new facet of this struggle: professional and emotional balance. Partner and I went to an awards ceremony at a drag show cabaret/bar last night. I was the recipient of one of their several generous scholarships. It was a warm, wonderful crowd. The people that much of society looks at as freaks do so much wonderful fundraising throughout the year to benefit scholars and community organizations. It is a shame more people do not realize that fact. Anyway, I was feeling bad most of last night because when I had to give my “thank you speech” it was the opposite of everything “WE” expect lawyers to be – articulate, poised, prepared. My voice was shaky and when I went to say thank you to my partner, who is pretty much raising our children as a single parent during the week, I got all choked up with tears. (Thankfully my mention of our 13+ years together received a nice round of applause.)
Have women fought so long to be respected in this “man’s profession” that I feel like being emotional takes away my credibility? Maybe. Maybe it’s also those emotions that will keep me in line, and doing the right thing for my family, and others I impact.
I feel better after reading a friend’s post today. It is a poem about appreciating the wonderful moments with our children. I was in tears after reading it and remembered something I realize more and more. Being a mother has changed me. I am more emotional. I see how beautiful and how fragile life can be. I worry about my kids and I love them more than I ever thought possible. I don’t think that will make me a bad lawyer. I think it will make me a good one – well-rounded and able to keep an eye towards what is truly important. What is more professional than that?
Insider advice and insights to help you decide if you should pursue a higher degree while raising children, and tips for being successful if you're already on that path, from a woman who graduated from law school in her early 40's while working full-time and helping raise two young children. While most of the blog posts were originally written several years ago, they have recently been sorted for the most relevant materials, and new content is being added.